Saturday, October 28, 2017

651 Over de joodse zeden en gewoonten.

Tamarah Benimah ( vrouwelijke rabbi in Amsterdam) schrijft dat sex bij joden iets is om plezier aan te beleven. Het wordt niet snel als een taboe onderwerp gezien.
Hieronder  een samenvatting van colleges die ze gaf. (*)

Ik vrees dat sex zo'n sterke menselijke 'drift' is dat het aardig uit de hand kan lopen als je er zo permissief tegenover staat als de rabbi's die de Talmud schreven.

In een cultuur met zware taboes op sexueel gebied ga je al over de schreef als je fantasiën in je hoofd toelaat. 
Een mens durft de 'normale regels in zijn cultuur' wel een beetje te overtreden, maar niet met tien stappen.  [ Tenzij er een bijzondere omstandigheid is, zoals bij de katholieke priesters: (**) ]



Mijn vertaling van dit artikel uit Vice:  

'Bij de orthodoxe joden gebeurt  het verkrachten van kinderen aan de lopende band"

 ( Ik heb enkele cruciale passages paars gemaakt)



The Child-Rape Assembly Line

Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg—who is 63 with a long, graying beard—recently sat down with me to explain what he described as a "child-rape assembly line" among sects of fundamentalist Jews.



Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg, victim of a bleach attack.



Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg—who is 63 with a long, graying beard—recently sat down with me to explain what he described as a "child-rape assembly line" among sects of fundamentalist Jews. He cleared his throat. "I'm going to be graphic," he said.

A member of Brooklyn's Satmar Hasidim fundamentalist branch of Orthodox Judaism, Nuchem designs and repairs mikvahs in compliance with Torah Law. The mikvah is a ritual Jewish bathhouse used for purification. Devout Jews are required to cleanse themselves in the mikvah on a variety of occasions: Women must visit following menstruation, and men have to make an appearance before the High Holidays, such as Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Many of the devout also purify themselves before and after the act of sex and before the Sabbath.

On a visit to Jerusalem in 2005, Rabbi Rosenberg entered into a mikvah in one of the holiest neighborhoods in the city, Mea She'arim. "I opened a door that entered into a schvitz," he told me. "Vapors everywhere, I can barely see. My eyes adjust, and I see an old man, my age, long white beard, a holy-looking man, sitting in the vapors. On his lap, facing away from him, is a boy, maybe seven years old. And the old man is having anal sex with this boy."

Rabbi Rosenberg paused, gathered himself, and went on: "This boy was speared on the man like an animal, like a pig, and the boy was saying nothing. But on his face—fear. The old man [looked at me] without any fear, as if this was common practice. He didn't stop. I was so angry, I confronted him. He removed the boy from his penis, and I took the boy aside. I told this man, 'It's a sin before God, a mishkovzucher. What are you doing to this boy's soul? You're destroying this boy!' He had a sponge on a stick to clean his back, and he hit me across the face with it. 'How dare you interrupt me!' he said. I had heard of these things for a long time, but now I had seen."

The child sex abuse crisis in ultra-Orthodox Judaism, like that in the Catholic Church, has produced its share of shocking headlines in recent years. In New York, and in the prominent Orthodox communities of Israel and London, allegations of child molestation and rape have been rampant. The alleged abusers are schoolteachers, rabbis, fathers, uncles—figures of male authority. The victims, like those of Catholic priests, are mostly boys. Rabbi Rosenberg believes around half of young males in Brooklyn's Hasidic community—the largest in the United States and one of the largest in the world—have been victims of sexual assault perpetrated by their elders. Ben Hirsch, director of Survivors for Justice, a Brooklyn organization that advocates for Orthodox sex abuse victims, thinks the real number is higher. "From anecdotal evidence, we're looking at over 50 percent. It has almost become a rite of passage."

Ultra-Orthodox Jews who speak out about these abuses are ruined and condemned to exile by their own community. Dr. Amy Neustein, a nonfundamentalist Orthodox Jewish sociologist and editor of Tempest in the Temple: Jewish Communities and Child Sex Scandals, told me the story of a series of Hasidic mothers in Brooklyn she got to know who complained that their children were being preyed on by their husbands.

In these cases, the accused men "very quickly and effectively engage the rabbis, the Orthodox politicians, and powerful Orthodox rabbis who donate handsomely to political clubs." The goal, she told me, is "to excise the mother from the child's life." Rabbinical courts cast the mothers aside, and the effects are permanent. The mother is "amputated." One woman befriended by Dr. Neustein, a music student at a college outside New York, lost contact with all six of her children, including an infant she was breastfeeding at the time of their separation.


Rabbi Rosenberg inspects a ritual purification bath, known as a mikvah. In 2005, he witnessed a young boy being raped inside a similar bath.

Seven years ago, Rabbi Rosenberg started blogging about sex abuse in his community and opened a New York City hotline to field sex abuse complaints. He has posted appeals on YouTube, appeared on CNN, and given speeches across the US, Canada, Israel, and Australia. Today, he is the lone whistleblower among the Satmar. For this he is reviled, slandered, hated, feared. He receives death threats on a regular basis. In Yiddish and Hebrew newspapers, advertisements taken out by the self-described "great rabbis and rabbinical judges of the city of New York" have denounced him as "a stumbling block for the House of Israel," "a public rebuker and preacher of ethics" who "persists in his rebelliousness" and whose "voice has been heard among many Jewish families, especially young people in their innocence... drawn to listen to his poisonous and revolting speeches." Leaflets distributed in Williamsburg and Borough Park, the centers of ultra-Orthodoxy in Brooklyn, display his bearded face over the body of a writhing snake. "Corrupt Informer," reads one of the leaflets, followed by the declaration that Rabbi Rosenberg's "name should rot in hell forever. They should cut him off from all four corners of the earth."

When Rabbi Rosenberg wants to bathe at a mikvah in Brooklyn to purify himself, none will have him. When he wants to go to synagogue, none will have him. "He is finished in the community, butchered," said a fellow rabbi who would only talk anonymously. "No one will look at him, and those who will talk to him, they can't let it be known. The pressure in our community, it's incredible."

The powerful men—and it is worth noting that this community is regulated by men only—who govern the world of ultra-Orthodox Judaism would rather their adherents be blind in their faith, their eyes closed to the horrors Rabbi Rosenberg is exposing. Like the Catholic establishment, the rabbinate seeks to cover up the crimes, quiet the victims, protect the abusers, and deflect potential criticism of their institutional practices. Those who speak out are vilified, and the faithful learn to shut their mouths. When the father of the seven-year-old boy whom Rabbi Rosenberg rescued from the Jerusalem bathhouse showed up to collect his son, he couldn't believe his son had been raped. Trembling, terrified, he whisked his son away to get medical help but was still too scared to raise a formal complaint. According to Ben and Survivors for Justice, "The greatest sin is not the abuse, but talking about the abuse. Kids and parents who step forward to complain are crushed."

As for Rabbi Rosenberg, when he voiced his concerns to the rabbinate in Israel, he was brought up on charges by the mishmeres hatznuis, the archconservative Orthodox "modesty squad," which regulates, often through threats of violence, proper moral conduct and dress in the relations between men and women. The modesty squad is a sort of Jewish Taliban. According to Rabbi Rosenberg, the rapist he caught in the act was a member of the modesty squad, which charged him with the unconscionable offense of having previously been seen walking down a street in Jerusalem with a married woman. "But it's OK to molest children," he adds.

The abuse and its cover-up are symptoms of wider political dysfunction—or, more precisely, symptoms of socially disastrous political control by religious elites.

"This isn't a problem about a few aberrant cases or an old-fashioned community reluctant to talk to police about sexual matters," said Michael Lesher, a practicing Jew who has investigated Orthodox sex abuse and represented abuse victims. "This is about a political economy that links Orthodox Judaism with other fundamentalist creeds and with aspects of right-wing ideologies generally. It's an economy in which genuine religious values will never really rise to the top, so long as they're tied to the poisonous priorities that elevate status and power over the basic human needs of the most vulnerable among us."

Michael, who is completing a book on the topic, noted that the infamous Rabbi Elior Chen, convicted in 2010 in what was arguably Israel's worst case of serial child abuse, is still defended in public statements by leading ultra-Orthodox rabbis. Among other legal and moral crimes, the rabbi forced his victims to eat feces, claiming that this cruelty was necessary to "purify" the children he abused.

According to Ben, the ultra-Orthodox community has never been as repressive as it is today. The repression, as he describes it, stems from the burden of having too many children. Huge families are encouraged: Every child born to a Hasid is seen as "a finger in the eye of Hitler." Ben also told me that the average family size among Williamsburg Hasidim is nine, and that some families include more than 15 children.


Mikvah Israel of Boro Park, one of the many mikvahs in Brooklyn that no longer accept Rabbi Rosenberg.

Families saddled with an increasing number of children soon enter into a cycle of poverty. There is simultaneously an extreme separation of the sexes, which is unprecedented in the history of the Hasidim. There is limited general education, to the point that most men in the community are educated only to the third grade, and receive absolutely no sexual education. No secular newspapers are allowed, and internet access is forbidden. "The men in the community are undereducated by design," Ben said. "You have a community that has been infantilized. They have been trained not to think. It's a sort of totalitarian control."

The rabbis, dominating an ignorant and largely poverty-stricken flock, determine the fate of every individual in the community. Nothing is done without the consent of the rabbinical establishment. A man wants to buy a new car—he goes to the rabbi for counsel. A man wants to marry—the rabbi tells him whether or not he should marry a particular bride. As for the women, they don't get to ask the rabbi anything. Their place is beneath contempt.

Michael told me that current Orthodox leadership, accruing wealth from the tithes of subservient followers, is "drifting to the right, politically as well as religiously." Many rabbis in New York City have taken up the banner of neoliberalism. "Every English-language Orthodox publication I know embraced Romney during the 2012 elections, decried national health insurance, blamed liberals for bribing the lower classes," he said. "In Orthodox society, just as in America at large, the financial mismatch between the elite and the rest of us is ominously large."

Michael also notes that the problem is not confined to the extremists. "The same patterns of victim-blaming, covering up, idealizing the rabbis so that cover-ups aren't even acknowledged, are found all across the spectrum of Orthodoxy," he told me. "The Orthodox left was shamefully slow to react to Rabbi Baruch Lanner's abuse or to the similar case of Rabbi Mordechai Elon." Rabbi Lanner, a former New Jersey yeshiva high school principal, was found guilty in 2000 of sexually abusing dozens of teenage students over the decades of his tenure. Rabbi Elon, who had publicly denounced homosexuality, was convicted last August on two counts of forcible sexual assault on a male minor, following several years of reports of his abuse of young boys.

"I have children come to me with their parents, and the blood is coming out of the anus," Rabbi Rosenberg told me when we met. "These are zombies for life. What are we to do?"

This of course is the key question, and no answers are forthcoming. Michael holds out little hope that the situation will change. "If Orthodox institutions continue on their current trajectory," he said, "I'd say things could get worse before they get better."

A few weeks after our interview, Rabbi Rosenberg was walking through the Williamsburg section of Brooklyn when an unidentified man rushed up behind him, tapped him on the shoulder, and threw a cup of bleach in his face. He went to the hospital with facial burns and was temporarily blinded. Such is the measure of justice among the Satmar that a once-respected rabbi, now amputated from the community, should find himself chemically burned on a street in a neighborhood considered holy.

Later Rabbi Rosenberg told me a story of being surrounded by young boys in Williamsburg. The boys cursed him, laughed at him, threatened him, and spat at him. He wondered how many of them would end up molested.






(*)  College 7.
Seks: vrijmoedige hoogtepunten Genieten is een must in het Jodendom.
 Ook in de seksualiteit. En ook voor vrouwen. Bijna alles mag, in het monogame huwelijk. Seks leer je van je leermeesters (maar natuurlijk niet door het met ze te doen). In de traditionele joodse teksten wordt mannen geleerd hoe ze met hun vrouw moeten omgaan, teneinde ze te bevredigen, want de joodse vrouw heeft recht op bevredigende seks. Niet als toevalstreffer, maar regelmatig. De joodse geleerden bediscussiëren zelfs hoe vaak. Dit is een uitvloeisel van de wet van onah, die gebaseerd is op een bijbeltekst. Mannen mogen zich niet van seks onthouden zonder toestemming van hun echtgenote, en als al, dan niet voor lange tijd. Ook dat valt onder onah. Wat niet mag is coïtus interruptus, in het Nederlands bekend als ‘voor het zingen de kerk uit’. Ook dit is gebaseerd op een bijbelverhaal, namelijk het verhaal over Tamar, stamhoofd Jehoeda en zijn twee zonen Er en Onan. Maar het verspillen van zaad is niet altijd een probleem. En de kabbalisten, de joodse mystici, beweren eigenlijk dat er van verspilling geen sprake is als er geen kind wordt verwekt. Als seks mag, mag bijna alles, maar seks mag niet altijd. Niet als de echtgenote menstrueert en de zeven witte dagen nadat het vloeien is afgelopen. Rachel Biale stelt dat deze restrictie in stand is gehouden in het Rabbijnse Jodendom (het Jodendom zoals dat nu bestaat), maar dat de rabbijnen juist veel restricties voor menstruerende vrouwen die bestonden in de Oudheid hebben geschrapt. Nidda, geen seks tijdens menstruatie, wordt door echtparen gewaardeerd, omdat het hun seksuele leven ten goede komt, maar is dat echt zo, of liegen ze erover? Afgezien van een nichtje/nicht is alle seks met vrouwen uit de familie verboden, ook met de aangetrouwde vrouwen. In dit hoorcollege komt ook homoseksualiteit en lesbiciteit aan de orde, en menselijke seksualiteit als functie van de schepping en als helende functie voor de gebrokenheid in mens, wereld en de Eeuwige zelf.

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Hoe is het mogelijk dat in katholieke internaten veel jongens zijn misbruikt door de geestelijken, en dat dit jarenlang door kon gaan zonder dat het werd toegegeven en werd gestopt?

Ik denk omdat het te groot was. Het verschil tussen de officiele leer omtrent zedelijk gedrag en de praktijk van die geestelijken  in de internaten was zo groot, dat men er niet eens over durfde praten. Het zou ook enorme schade aan  De Kerk kunnen doen, en dat had men er niet voor over.
Het werd dus vanaf het begin toegedekt. Maar de driften waren in de mens aanwezig, en  wellicht ook in de hogere rangen , zij die het toezicht moesten uitvoeren.
 Het priesterambt (de mannenwereld in het seminarie, de mis opdragen, zingen , kleurige en neit mannelijke gewaden  dragen,  niet huwen) heeft bovendien een grote aantrekkingskracht op homosexuele mannen.

Daar komt bij dat ook in de gewone maatschappij vrijwel alle sexuele misstappen en misdaden onbesproken bleven.
Zelf herinner ik me dat een meisje in ons dorp een kind van haar eigen vader had gekregen. Dat hoorde je dan wel 1 keer, maar verder sprak niemand daar ooit over.  Die vader is daarvoor ook nooit veroordeeld.  Het was 'Te Groot' om openlijk over te kunnen praten.  ( 'The unspeakable' heeft Thomas Merton dit verschijnsel genoemd, meen ik.)
In zo'n klimaat gaat het misbruik natuurlijk gewoon door.
Tot de Kerk zijn macht volledig heeft verloren en de Media in handen van de vijand zijn en bloed ruiken. Pas dan wordt er over gesproken.

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Update: 28 okt 2017:
Bericht in Haaretz: In de Anna Loulou bar in Jaffa krijgen vrouwen die ongesteld zijn 25% korting....
Vergelijk dit met het feit dat orthodoxe joodse vrouwen hun eigen haar nooit mogen tonen aan de buitenwereld, en dus allemaal een pruik op hebben. ( Het joodse geloof is één lange poging om G-d te slim af te zijn. Niet een poging om oprecht de geest van de wet te volgen.)

1 comment:

  1. Voor mensen die menen dat dit verhaal van een "aluhoedjes-site" komt, ook de NYT heeft erover bericht:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/12/nyregion/rabbi-nuchem-rosenberg-doused-maybe-with-bleach-in-williamsburg.html

    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/11/nyregion/hasidic-man-found-guilty-of-sexual-abuse.html

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